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1. Healing Relationship Abuse - What's Empathy Have to Do With Healing From Domestic Abuse? What's empathy got to do with healing domestic abuse injury? Everything. Domestic abuse healing is much like healing other social trauma and psychological injury. Hearing You It all starts with attention. When you are seen and heard by... (posted by Dr. Jeanne King Ph.D. 300 days 20 hours ago.)

2. Grieving After Your Abusive Relationship - "Why Do I Still Love the Abuser I left?" I often hear patients and readers ask, "What do I do about the fact that I still love the abuser that I left?" How can that be, she longs to know, as this is the person that injured her, brought her grief...or as some say, ruined her life. ... (posted by Dr. Jeanne King Ph.D. 301 days 22 hours ago.)

3. Domestic Abuse Signs - When Physical Abuse Opens Your Eyes to Mental, Psychological and Sexual Abuse Many people living in abusive relationships say they were glad when their partner first hit them. Now, I don't mean glad in the "happy" sense. I mean "glad" in the "thank God for helping me see" sense. Physical Abuse Shakes You Awake If... (posted by Dr. Jeanne King Ph.D. 302 days 23 hours ago.)

4. Domestic Violence by Proxy - How to Heal the Lingering Legacy of Trauma, Tragedy and Terror Being shoved out of your children's lives is a violation like none other. Rallying your kids up to be the pistol that carries the bullets blasting your heart open is equally horrific. In fact, this method was one practiced by Hitler in... (posted by Dr. Jeanne King Ph.D. 307 days ago.)

5. Borderlines and Emotional Abusers - When Borderlines Are Abusive in Their Intimate Relationships Sometimes individuals with a borderline personality disorder present like emotional abusers, and this has important clinical implications for treatment. A close look at the DSM-IV criteria for Borderline Personality Disorder sheds light on this... (posted by Dr. Jeanne King Ph.D. 338 days 21 hours ago.)

6. Verbal Emotional Abuse - How to Get Out of the Line of Fire Your partner is angry about God only knows what and there you are in the line of fire. He may start with some derogatory comment about the way you manage (or fail to manage) your life. And quickly, he tosses in his resentment toward your family... (posted by Dr. Jeanne King Ph.D. 1 year 5 days ago.)

7. Domestic Abuse Counseling - Does Your Spouse Talk At or Talk With You? In providing domestic abuse counseling to couples in abusive relationships, I have noticed a subtle yet significant communication pattern that alerts me to the underlying dynamics moment-to-moment. I call it "talking at" vs. "talking with" your... (posted by Dr. Jeanne King Ph.D. 1 year 13 days ago.)

8. Controlling Spouse - 5 Subtle Communication Patterns of Spousal Sexual Abuse Sexual abuse in controlling relationships can be as subtle as emotional and psychological abuse between intimate partners. Would you know if you were entangled in spousal sexual abuse? Here are some common behavior and communication patterns... (posted by Dr. Jeanne King Ph.D. 1 year 18 days ago.)

9. Healing From Domestic Abuse - Do You Need the Abuser's Apology for You to Heal? "What if the abuser never ever apologizes, does not believe in remorse and has no empathy? What then...how do we heal?" asks a reader. Good question for those seeking to heal from intimate partner violence. Implied in this question appears to... (posted by Dr. Jeanne King Ph.D. 1 year 45 days ago.)

10. When "We" Means Losing Me - 5 Signs of a Controlling Relationship When I show up for you, "inception" becomes the order of the day. It's as though you expect your thoughts to become my thoughts. And I struggle with having to decide, "Will it be we or me?" Sound familiar? Controlling Relationships and... (posted by Dr. Jeanne King Ph.D. 1 year 77 days ago.)

11. Partner Abuse Thinking and Therapy - He Doesn't Value Me or Does He? Many women say when they get involved with a man, they lose themselves. That may be true. And it may also be true that they give themselves up. Ouch! You heard me. We give ourselves up. We intentionally and voluntarily surrender one desire for... (posted by Dr. Jeanne King Ph.D. 1 year 107 days ago.)

12. Healing Emotional Abuse - Healing Through the Structure of Silence When you know the structure of silence, you hold the key to healing emotional abuse from within. Now this may sound simple or it may sound profound, depending on your relationship to being quiet within. Knowing silence and being familiar with... (posted by Dr. Jeanne King Ph.D. 1 year 149 days ago.)

13. Healing Emotional Abuse - The Language of Healing and the Mechanics of Purification What is it about silence that enables healing from emotional trauma? The answer to this question is the essence of healing the trauma of domestic violence. Mind-Body Medicine and Domestic Abuse Recovery We know from the principles of... (posted by Dr. Jeanne King Ph.D. 1 year 169 days ago.)

14. Domestic Violence Divorce - The Cobra Batterer, Child Custody Seeker Have you ever noticed how some abusers will fight you to the end for custody and others give it up and walk away? Now this observation may be contrary to common understanding by those in the domestic violence divorce circles. However, from the... (posted by Dr. Jeanne King Ph.D. 1 year 211 days ago.)

15. Domestic Abuse Counseling - How to Engage Your Partner in Abusive Relationship Therapy Identifying the problem is half of the solution. We hear this in healthcare and in domestic abuse counseling, too. But when you are on the receiving end of domestic abuse, you often lose sight of the fact that identifying the problem is part... (posted by Dr. Jeanne King Ph.D. 1 year 230 days ago.)

16. Verbal Abuse in Marriage - How to Deal with Verbal Sniping in Abusive Relationships Emotional verbal abuse in marriage is commonplace in couples of all walks of life. Sometimes it's an innocent reflexive gesture that comes out unconsciously. And other times, it's an oral blow intended to smack you across your heart and soul. ... (posted by Dr. Jeanne King Ph.D. 1 year 267 days ago.)

17. Emotional Abuse Divorce - How to Navigate a System Used by an Abuser to Control Battered mothers tell me about the rage they harbor over their perpetrators use of the system to batter them. And when I ask if it is anything like what was felt when beaten verbally, emotionally or physically, they usually say, "no." "It's not at... (posted by Dr. Jeanne King Ph.D. 1 year 361 days ago.)

18. Emotionally Abusive Relationship Intervention - 3 Keys to Freeing Yourself from Emotional Abuse A psychologist in India recently asked me to write about the following - How can a woman, one without access to professional help, take steps towards freeing herself from an emotionally abusive relationship? As I think about this question, I... (posted by Dr. Jeanne King Ph.D. 1 year 362 days ago.)

19. Domestic Violence Child Custody - The Psychiatric Sword Divorce and child custody proceedings are fertile ground for flinging psychiatric swords, particularly when domestic violence is before the court. If you are a domestic abuse survivor in family court, you either know what I mean or will know... (posted by Dr. Jeanne King Ph.D. 2 years 42 days ago.)

20. Domestic Abuse "Tiffany's Style" - The Dilemma of Wealthy Abused Women Many people think that domestic violence is easier to deal with when you are wealthy. But, the fact is that the affluent have a whole set of issues unique to their elevated socioeconomic status that makes dealing with domestic abuse even more... (posted by Dr. Jeanne King Ph.D. 2 years 45 days ago.)

21. Domestic Violence and Child Custody - Abuser's Use of Mental Healthcare to Discredit Survivors A common theme for battered mothers in divorce proceedings is that they begin thinking they are holding the winning hand when it comes to domestic violence and child custody. They typically are awarded temporary custody of their minor children and... (posted by Dr. Jeanne King Ph.D. 2 years 46 days ago.)

22. Battered Husbands - The Shame of Being Abused by Your Female Spouse Shame is part and parcel to any experience that you indulge or endure, wherein you think others would think less of you if they only knew. It's the pervasive feeling for battered men in abusive relationships. It's the feeling underlying the... (posted by Dr. Jeanne King Ph.D. 2 years 137 days ago.)

23. Battered Women - When Mature Women Leave Abusive Relationships "Dr. King, speak to how it is for the mature woman in an abusive relationship and how it is for her when she leaves," writes a reader. My knee jerk response to this request was, "the dynamics are the same." Battering is battering is battering. An... (posted by Dr. Jeanne King Ph.D. 2 years 189 days ago.)

24. Family Court Abuse and Parental Alienation -- Children as Causalities For people who have been in family court battling domestic abuse, it's no secret that the children are the real causalities. Typically, the perpetrator will use the legal system to perpetuate domestic abuse upon the spouse he/she is divorcing. And... (posted by Dr. Jeanne King Ph.D. 2 years 222 days ago.)

25. Verbally Abusive Relationships - 3 Keys to Dealing with Verbal Abuse in Marriage Have you ever noticed how some couples believe that verbal abuse in marriage is acceptable? It's as though that foulness is his/her bad breath or messy bathroom habits. Even though they don't like the way it feels, they make excuses for it... (posted by Dr. Jeanne King Ph.D. 2 years 306 days ago.)